Yes?

Then, like a lot of dads, you’re in a loop.

And if your heart recoils as you hear yourself say something that you absolutely hated when you were a youngster, and vowed and declared you’d never ever say to your kids, then keep reading.

By default, we parent as we were parented.

To break the loop, we need to step up and step out.

I’m not talking about going on a hike with the offspring, although that’s not necessarily a bad idea! I’m talking about getting the support you need to empower yourself to be on top of the dad game.

Fatherhood is a beautiful journey filled with joy, challenges, and responsibilities. To be the best dad means you need to recognize the unique role you play and get the support you need to navigate the ups and downs of parenthood, strengthen your bond with your children, and cultivate a loving and supportive family environment.

I hear you.

You’re a man in a man’s world.

It’s not cool to “get help” yet you’re always expected to have the answers and do the right thing.

Here’s the good news.

It’s becoming more and more EXPECTED that men actively seek and invest in help so that they can become better fathers and happier and more fulfilled individuals.

Michael Phelps, an Olympic swimmer has been vocal about his battle with depression and anxiety. He has partnered with organizations to actively destigmatize seeking help. Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, an actor and former professional wrestler, is using his platform to encourage open conversations about mental well-being and self-care. Ryan Reynolds, the actor, producer, and Wrexham Football Club partner, is also publicly supporting mental health organisations.

Besides being celebrities, all three of these men are fathers.

Michael has three sons, Dwayne has three daughters and Ryan, at last count, has four children.

Closer to home, our Springbok ruby captain, Siya Kolisi and the late DJ legend, Mark Pilgrim, each with two young children, have advocated for mental health wellness and for men to engage in positive parenting.

What could be more profound in terms of mental health than being the very best dad possible?

By breaking the cycle of “parenting as we were parented” you lay the foundations for a better future for all. Not only do your children and immediate family benefit, but society at large will reap the results. Adopting new strategies and consciously banishing old patterns are key. It starts with You.

Please feel free to set up a no obligations, virtual coffee-shop chat and let’s explore how, as a dad, you can become an agent of positive parenting change. It’s a small step with a massive impact and the time is now.

Happy Father’s Day, take care and be blessed,

Col